Wednesday, September 28, 2011


I don't have anything specific to write about.
Right now I am trying to bee open to new friendships. I really need to connect with some people besides my husband and son. This week we purchased a Wii and a few games. I'm hoping the Zumba and dance games will help me either maintain or loose some weight.
This week a blog that I read posted a link to another blog where the author did a 50's housewife experiment. It's a great read!
Another blog I like is doing a series on sex education in the home. The post on masturbation is thought provoking.
Starting next week I think I'll participate in Wordless Wednesday. (This will guarantee my 1 post a week goal, hehe)

Friday, September 23, 2011


For the past 3 1/2 weeks Isaiah and I have been coughing. We have both seen our doctor and she reassured me that he does not have whooping cough and I just have allergies. Besides having this cold, today for the first time someone made me physically sick because of a conversation they were having.

The conversation was about a 1 year old who is not crawling yet and has 2 doting sisters. For some reason they thought it would be a good idea to start beating (their word, not mine) this baby. And it was ok to leave him on the floor on his belly for 20 minutes while he buried his head in the carpet crying. I cannot for the life of me figure out why a 1 year old baby would need a beating, spanking, or whatever you want to call it, for any reason. We left after the conversation was over. I felt physically ill after and I was trying to hold back tears once I was in the hallway. I can't for the life of me figure out the logic for hitting a baby because they are not crawling yet. And oh yeah, according to one of them, boys are lazy. If I was one of the males in that room I would have been terribly offended.
Phew...Glad I got that out.

Now I can see how God has changed my heart. A few months ago I don't know if I would of had the same reaction.

Friday, September 2, 2011

Mastering the Smile and Nod

If there is one thing parents have learned it is that you will get advice you did not ask for and comments will be made about your child(ren) about situations they know nothing about. This is where mastering the art of Smile and Nod comes in. I'm still (and will probably always be) a work in progress but I have come a long way. I have learned that it is not worth my time and energy to engage certain people when all it will do is make me defensive and frustrated.

Recently I was speaking with a therapist trying to work through things from my past. I'm not sure how we got on the subject of my son and sleep but we did. The comment was made that in other countries everyone sleeps in the same room but in America we don't do that. This person went on to say that if an 8 year old still sleeps with their parents then they would not be able to attend a sleep over because they would not be able to sleep without their parents, inferring that in other countries this is not a problem because they do not have sleepovers.
As she was speaking she was looking at me with the look of 'you agree right?' So this is where I applied the smile and nod technique. Since she is more educated in child development I did not think this was a discussion I wanted to get into. My smile and nod technique consisted of a neutral facial expression, little eye contact and looking at my son as a distraction. Since she is a therapist I wonder if she knew what I was doing.

I don't agree with the statement that an 8 year old who sleeps with their parents would not be able to attend a sleepover for a couple reasons.

  1.   Personal experience - When I was 8 I was still sleeping with my mom most nights. Honestly I was afraid of the dark (and kind of still am). I could sleep just fine in the dark with my mom. I went to plenty of sleepovers and overnight trips with friends just fine! When I felt that I was too old to sleep with my mom I slept in my own room on my own (with a light).
  2. Going off my own understandings of co-sleeping, it is not just about sleeping with your parent. It is about sleeping with other people around. I believe that at 8, a child who wanted to sleep over with their friends would do fine because they would still be sleeping with other people, not alone. And honestly, how much sleep goes on at a sleep over anyway? If the child got scared and wanted to go home and snuggle with their parents, what's wrong with that? That said, I could be completely wrong.
So after applying the smile and nod, I assume that the therapist thinks my son sleeps alone at night in his own room in a crib. If she only knew my son sleeps next to his mommy and daddy every night :)